Normal Anxiousness about Sleepaway Camp

The countdown to summer sleepaway camp is well underway as we approach the 150 days till camp marker. While some campers are enjoying the count down, others are feeling a big nervous and maybe even somewhat anxious. This is perfectly normal!

What can you do to encourage your campers to be ready for camp?

Anxiousness is Normal
Anxiousness is Normal

Here’s some tips from the experts:

Brooke Cheley-Klebe from Cheley Camps suggests “Get your camper involved in picking out gear for camp. If you buy hiking boots, go on a hike with them!

Camp Owner and TED talk extraordinaire, Steve Baskin suggests reframe what three weeks away is about “wise parents provide their children with a different frame to look at camp.  It is not “3 weeks away from mom and dad”, but is instead “a grand adventure full of fun and friends”.

Jen Bush writes for American Camp Association: “Learn details of the facilities. Will your child have to walk to the bathroom at night? Some kids, especially those from urban areas, are unaccustomed to total darkness, so it’s a good idea to practice using a flashlight. Will she be exposed to a lot of bugs and wildlife? Consider taking a family camping trip in advance to familiarize your child with the outdoor environment, nighttime sounds, and roughing it a bit.”

A great idea we heard from a parent is have your teenager take a mini-vacation from their phone or screen. Make it a positive experience where you go do something together or something she enjoys and explain that it’s about being present together. Not tying it “going away to camp” will be in their favor.

       Counselors are Fun
Counselors are Fun

Other ideas:

  • Look over the packing list together on https://runoia.com/camp-store/, start browsing your closets and stores and gathering items together for camp.
  • Practice sorting their dirty laundry from clean clothes, carrying their toiletries to the shower, brushing and braiding their hair, making their bed. Make a list of things they will be expected to do at camp on their own or with the support of a counselor or a friend and start practicing!
  • Discuss what they will enjoy doing at camp, look over the camp activities, help explain how they can sign up for activities at the camp and who to turn to if they would like to change their schedule.
  • Let them know how Runoia directors and adults are around all the time to help them at camp. Have them write an email to us about any concerns so we can address them. Reducing uncertainty and knowing adults will be there to help them really helps.
Caring Adults at Camp Runoia
Caring Adults at Camp Runoia

Let your camper know it is absolutely normal to be nervous about camp and let her know that everyone is nervous – even the campers returning to Runoia. Remind her we are great at helping campers adjust and get oriented at Camp Runoia and we want her to have the best time of her life!

Odd Mum out!

We were pretty busy over school vacation. We didn’t go anywhere too far away but spent time doing activities together that we don’t often get a chance to fit in.  When we didn’t go visiting family and friends our days included plenty of fun both indoors and out.  We like to be active: we went dog walking up the local mountain (dog-sitting Runoia’s Jake was a good excuse);  ice skating at the indoor arena as the pond across the street isn’t frozen yet; to the big trampoline park to get in not only bouncy time but slack lining and playing in the giant hamster balls too.  The waterpark is only an hour away and is always good for a few hours on a freezing cold day; swimming is the summer activity that we miss the most when we are not at camp.  Of course when it did finally snow a microscopic amount we hit the local ski slope to get warmed up for the season.

skiOne thing that I noticed while out and about was how many parents looked so bored sitting around the edges while their kids were having a great time.  I am not passing judgement I am sure that there are many reasons for adults to not join in the fun but it just never occurred to me to not participate.  I began to feel a bit like the odd Mum out.  Why would I want to sit and watch when I can take part? My kids can get a great laugh at my efforts, we get to make memories together and it allows my children to be better than me at a bunch of stuff – there is definitely no front handspring on the trampoline from me these days! I also appreciate getting some good exercise and having plain old fun.

jumpI’m not my kids tag-along for everything and believe me I am more than happy when they are tucked up in bed for the night and I get some quiet time. I enjoy being the odd mum out and thank goodness I have a bunch of grown up friends who like to join me.

skatingObviously there is no actual photographic evidence of me doing any of these activities as I was far too busy having fun.  Might be time to buy a selfie stick!

Mountain Biking at Runoia and beyond

As the crisp autumn air flows in, I am reassured as to why I live in New England.  For the seasons.  Now is a perfect time to get outdoors and enjoy all that New England has to offer. Perhaps a swift hike in the woods or a leisurely walk along the water suits you.  For me, I want to go mountain biking.

bike2I was so inspired last summer spending time mountain biking with the girls of Camp Runoia.  It is truly a gift to be able to pass on my passion for a great sport onto these young ladies.  To watch their eagerness to learn and explore is a tough feeling to beat.  I started mountain biking back in the early nineties when the sport first started to take off.  Historically, this has been a sport dominated by men, but the question remains, how do we get more girls and women involved in this great sport?  When I came to Runoia, I was thrilled to see that we had a mountain bike program.  What a great way to expose our girls to a sport they may not be exposed to otherwise.  As the bike technology advances and trails and parks become more accessible, my hope is that more young women will try mountain biking.    I wanted to share something that a local mountain bike park that I ride at in New Hampshire hosted last weekend.  Click here to see a short video with some highlights from the “Women’s Freeride Festival” hosted by Highland Mountain Bike Park.

bike1Highland Mountain Bike Park is a very progressive place which is really on the cutting edge of the sport. Constantly creating new terrain and technical elements, they draw amateur and professional riders from all over the world.  I feel lucky to have this resource not far from home.  They obviously recognize that in order to sustain a sport like this and a facility like this, they need more riders.  I’m sure that this workshop inspired so many women to get into this sport or if already in it, it empowered them to take it to the next level.  This is a sport all about personal growth. You can go as slow or as fast as you want…as big or as small as you want.  What a feeling when you accomplish the next big challenge for the first time.  It truly gives you a great sense of power and accomplishment.

bike3If you have never mountain biked, I encourage you to give it a try!  This is an amazing sport which is here to stay.  I look forward to many more “Fine Maine Days” next summer spent mountain biking with the fabulous girls of a little sleep away camp which we call Runoia!

By Chris Mercier

 

Runoia Poetry and Writing

Poetry and Writing from Runoia

Runoia Unique – by Third Shack

Shoes decorate the porch to the Lodge as laughter escapes the four walls.

Inside kids that were once strangers are now bonded by friendship bracelets and stories of horse riding and wind surfing.

Piled by the fire in crazy creeks and singing songs of the blue waves, I am in awe of the compassion and acceptance around me. At Runoia, campers come from all across the world to find their home away from home.DSC_0872

The Lake by Lizzie N.

By the trees
With the leaves
I like to sit
Ideas lit in my mind
By the lake
Riding the wake
I sit and breathe
Maybe even weave
Away from canned foods
Electric hairblowers,
Dumb TVs.
I like to sit
Maybe bike
At the lake.
The Lake
The Lake

Camp Runoia by Charlotte W.

Crazy fun
Amazing Experience
Memories that will last a lifetime
Probably the best camp ever.
Ready to come next year
Uniqued yet fun activities
Never boring
On beautiful Great Pond
Inspires me to come back every year
Always fun
The Logs
The Logs

Camp and Group Development; the Theory of Summer Camp

Letter’s home.  Reading the fine print. What’s the science behind group development?

As we enter the thrid week of camp letters have been going back and forth between family members, friends and campers. (Remember letters? They require paper and stamps)  As a parent reading the letter it can be challenging to  put the comments in perspective. What is happening at camp? How is my daughter doing in her cabin group? What is she learning? Does she miss me?

At Runoia, camp is about community and working to find Harmony in that community. There are many community groups to be a part of at camp: Shack or cabin group  which is the most significant; table group at meals; swim class; group for overnight trips; organically formed group of friends and even in each activity class. How is it that these communities are formed? And how might that be reflected in letters home?

The staff at Runoia work hard to facilitate these shack groups and it is during this second week of camp that the community really starts to take shape and the letters home are likely to reflect this growth. The staff work to be attentive to the individual campers and helping them achieve goals. Staff are trained to intervene if necessary and resolve any conflict. Campers at this point have a good sense of their role among the group, which allows for this community to settle.

Did you know there is science behind this growth?

Meet Bruce Tuckman who Identified the Stages of Developmental Sequence in Small Groups. Tuckman originally said there are 3 stages of development:

  1. Forming
  2. Storming
  3. Norming

He later added a 4th: Performing And then a 5th: Adjourning (or Mourning)

Forming: In this stage, most group members are positive and polite. Some are anxious, as they aren’t sure what the camp experience will become. Others are simply excited about the choices they will make, the independence they have and the activities they will take.

Parents might be getting letters that tell of the new activities the girls are doing. Letters might report on specific bunkmates or cabin mates with both favorable and unfavorable reports. This is normal. If as a parent, you receive information that has you concerned about your daughters experience, contact a director. Often campers write of isolated feelings or incidents, which soon transform into the Norming Stage.

Storming: Next, the group moves into the storming phase, where campers start to push against the boundaries established in the forming stage. Storming often starts where there is a conflict between campers, and they may become frustrated. It is in this stage that campers are defining their roles and working to settle in.

Letters might be shorter and have seemingly disjointed context. Commonly you read of comments about other campers and less so about personal growth. i.e I like playing Gaga with Lizzie followed by I dont like swimming, the water is cold. These are normal observations and feelings your daughter has as she finds her way in the community.

Norming: Gradually, the group moves into the norming stage. This is when community members start to resolve their differences, appreciate each other’s strengths.

Now that campers know one another better, they may socialize together, and they are able to ask one another for help

There is often a prolonged overlap between storming and norming, because, as new tasks come up, the team may lapse back into behavior from the storming stage.

Letters home might have some varying reports based upon where the camper is in the process. These letters report more about friendships, more about the activities and routines at camp because camp has become a place of now understood routines, i.eyesterday I went on the zip line with Amanda and during rest hour I went tubing with Kia

Performing: The team reaches the performing stage, when the girls can work together and they really feel the harmony of living together.

It feels easy to be part of the team at this stage. Their morning chores are a routine, and they help each other.

Just as the camp day has a routine to it, letters are likely to flow and have more of a narrative to them.

Adjourning: Many groups will reach this stage eventually, however, leaders can’t control the pace at which the group develops. Shack groups may never get to this point because they are at camp for a fixed, fairly short, time limit.

Having made a new routine at camp, many campers find it challenging to transition OUT of camp. This is particularly hard if they are transitioning TO something new: Some campers’ families are moving while they are at camp such as:  parents going through divorce; a pet dies; a new puppy joins the family; or an older sibling goes off to college.

Allow time for this transition. Ask about camp and its traditions and its routines. Try to find similarity in the two settings: camp and home because camp has been home for a few weeks.

In your letters to campers, send information about your routines and compare it to camp. Are you doing morning chores?  Are you making decisions? Having interactions with friends? Learning new skills? Share some challenges?

During this week two of camp, you can expect the girls to be transitioning from Storming into the Performing stage of development.

Camp life offers so many chances for growth. As a parent recognize the stages that every group goes through and realize this is part of your daughter’s experience as part of the camp community. Their growth leads to the Harmony of Runoia.

We abhor the “mourning” phase… it’s coming right up as we wrap up our 1st session this week.

A moment in time.

Vernal pools temporary yet essential.

As the snow finally melts here in Maine and we transition into what is often a short spring there are many new and temporary delights to be found.  Around camp where the water is pooling in depressions or a small stream has widened on its way down to Great Pond you can now see vernal pools.  While they will likely be long gone by the time the campers arrive for the moment they provide a temporary habitat for the creatures emerging from the winter.  Although vernal pools may only contain water for a relatively short period of time, they serve as essential breeding habitat for certain species of Maine wildlife, including salamanders and frogs.  The air at night is now loudly filled with the noise of spring peepers and wood frogs that are quickly mating and laying eggs before the pools dry up.

03_wetThis time of year is energizing and engaging, we see signs that summer will soon be here and still have a quiet moment to enjoy the beautiful environment around us.  How fortunate we are that Ms. Weiser and Ms. Pond found the perfect spot for Runoia amidst the tall, shady, pine trees.  Much of our property is in a tree farm easement which allows us to keep the natural habitat available for all of our local wildlife.

vernalWhile individual people’s time at Runoia may be temporary we are grateful to all who have stepped through the gates and left their mark on our camp.  The vision of our founders and those that have preserved Runoia as a camp along with all of our girls and counselors breed the memories that will be preserved for a lifetime.  The summer of 2015 like a vernal pool or lunar moth will exist for only a short moment in time yet will grow the spirit of Runoia for generations to come.

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Camp and 21st Century skills

21st century skills

There is a lot of buzz particular in schools but also in the wider community about kids reaching adulthood prepared for their future. There is a need for youth to be skilled enough to navigate the world into which they will be employed and living.  These so called ‘21st century skills’  will hopefully enable a young person to gain the greatest potential success in their life and will be sought by both higher education institutions and employers.

21st_century_skillsSummer camps have been watching this trendy terminology with a happy glint in their eye as the intentional learning that we provide every day in a safe and fun environment fits right into this model.  Camps can easily argue that they can complement the developmental components of 21st century skills in an environment that varies so greatly from school that it allows for more and varied success.  Camps are not just a somewhat expensive commodity that either provides child care or a ‘fun’ way to spend the summer, they are learning environments where children don’t even realize they are engaging with skill development.

21st-century-skills-newCamps often work hard to convince parents that first and foremost their children will be safe and secondly that they are providing good value for money in the skills that campers leave with.

Often parents may focus on hard skills – did their child get better at tennis or swimming? It is the camp benefits that are perhaps less tangible which meet the 21st century skill set, a deeper appreciation for nature, the ability to build relationships and make connections, greater independence, more resilience (it does rain at camp sometimes!).

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We are proud to be actively promoting 21st century skills and look forward to sharing more moments of learning with our girls this summer.  Camp Runoia building lifelong skills.

Encourage in Four Words

Today’s trending topic on Twitter is #EncourageEveryoneIn4Words or in four words: Encourage in Four Words. With a definition of “Offer up a few words (four to be exact) to give your friends a little extra boost.”

We can think of a lot of ways camp gives people an extra boost but here is one of our favorites:

Encourage in Four WordsAnd a timeless award winning four word bit of happiness:

We Love These Words
We Love These Words

But when you think about it, if we thought of camp itself in these sound bites, what would be say:

Camp Gives Children Lifeskills

Campers Make Great People (substitute: Workers, Parents, Partners, Co-Workers, Citizens, Businesswomen, Scientists, Thinkers – the list goes on and on).

Encourage everyone in four words is a fun way to start the week. We are big fans that something so small has to do with encouragement. We also know that leads to people being clever and funny and silly and smart and taking it all to another level. We like that, too! Why not?

The bigger question we leave you with is “what four words would you use to encourage?”

Have Fun With It!

 

The bus!

Reflections on the not so magic school bus

My kids stopped riding the school bus this year.  We live in a small, rural community only about 4 minutes on the same road from their school. It dawned on me that while riding the bus is the norm and was certainly convenient it did not have any benefits and perhaps was actually having a detrimental impact on all of us.  A change in routine with me driving them has significantly reduced stress in our lives and has strengthened  not only our relationships as a family but also our connections within our community.

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The bonuses are many: I get to build social relations with the other parents picking up ‘walkers’ at school, I see some of the teachers in the halls and can stop to catch up for a minute or two, if it’s good weather we hang out playing outside school with friends, my kids talk to me and each other on the ride there and back so I find out way more than I did when they were on the bus, we also have more time for fun and stress free homework before heading off to activities.

While driving I have paused to noticed the number of parents on our route that sit in their cars for sometimes 20 minutes or more waiting for the bus when they could drive up to school and get their kids.  It is interesting that we become so conditioned to do something a particular way that we never look at it from a different perspective or question the ‘why’.

I know there are many reasons why riding the bus is a good thing for kids and I am not arguing the for or against but more the concept that sometimes taking a step back, questioning or doing simple everyday things differently can have unexpected results.

questionThere are many things that we do in life with little thought or intentionality.  Mix it up, try doing something differently or at least pausing for a moment of thought about why you are doing it the way that you are!

 

 

Nervous about camp?

Normal Nervousness About Going Away to Camp

 This time of year we hear from families – mostly new families but some returning families as well – about their daughter being nervous about going away to camp this summer.

We have some ideas to help you out and so do the experts. This article gives you some ideas on supporting your nervous camper: How to handle summer camp anxiety 

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While validating her concerns is a good idea, it’s also okay to acknowledge her concerns and redirect her from focusing too much on summer camp right now. It is a long ways till summer and your daughter will have a lot of life experiences in the next 6 months. She will mature and grow helping her with the idea of being away. In the spring some of the tips suggested in the above article will help.

Here’s one of our favorite camp psychologist, Dr. Christopher Thurber’s ideas of how to help your child adjust to the idea of camp: Click Here

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Or, for a quick look right now, here are some of our ideas:

 

  • Get your daughter involved in the packing process and buying a few new things for camp will engage her
  • Share that it is okay to be nervous and it is a normal feeling, tell her about times you’ve been nervous to do something and how you coped
  • Let her know you want to help her and together you will come up with a plan
  • Practice with sleepovers and weekends at grandparents’ home helps
  • Address specific questions she has will help reduce her uncertainty,
  • Look at our video and interacting with the camp map will get her involved
  • View our YouTube videos and if you use Facebook, checking out our posts and pictures are good ways to see the fun parts of camp.

Are you feeling a little anxious too? Check out  Dr. Michael Thompson’s book, Homesick and Happy – How Time Away From Parents Can Help a Child Grow.

We look forward to a super 2015 season with your daughter. Let us know if you need a little extra support, we would be happy to help!